Category: My Life

Oct 03, 2012
By Michael Rupured
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My roommate/best friend/ex-lover would say he gets blamed for stuff I do around the house. For example, I can’t find X and demand to know what he’s done with it. He insists he hasn’t touched X, but I know better because I NEVER misplace things. I slam, bang, and cuss for the next fifteen or twenty minutes, only to discover that X is exactly where I left it. I just forgot. For a dozen years now, nothing has ever been my fault. If something doesn’t get done–not my fault. If it gets done wrong, that’s not my fault either. If I gained weight, it’s because he cooked too much fattening food. It’s his fault I don’t get as much exercise as …

Oct 01, 2012
By Michael Rupured

Picture Perfect

The “for sale” sign has been up in front of my house for ten days. My realtor assures me that interest among other realtors is high, and that information about my house is becoming available on more and more outlets. I’ve also seen several people stop and pick up one of the information sheets from the curbside box. But so far, I haven’t heard a peep from any potential buyers. I hear it takes a few weeks for lookers to materialize. In the meantime, we’ve been sprucing things up around here and trying to keep everything picture perfect and ready to show at a moment’s notice. If I clean it, they will come. Early on I spent my time outside. You …

Sep 30, 2012
By Michael Rupured

Flying Solo

The partner who moved with me to Georgia fifteen years ago insisted we be active in the thriving gay community here in Athens. We went to an all-gay potluck dinner every month and attended fund-raising events throughout the year for the annual Boybutante Ball. We even became charter members of an all gay church here in Athens–Our Lady of Perpetual Drama. After our relationship came to an ugly end, he got the church and most of our male friends. Come to find out, he was sleeping with half of them. Except for a few close friends here in Athens, I more or less went into seclusion. That’s when I met my young friend online. Over the next twelve years we …

Sep 27, 2012
By Michael Rupured

Seven Things

Thanks to manty67 over at Him, Her, & Us for nominating me for Seven Things. Pop over to learn seven things about her, and to see the other nominees. Seven things about me: 1) I love Broadway musicals–not all of them, but most. My favorite is Miss Saigon. My least favorite–Rent. Sorry. I just didn’t get it. The fact it was the favorite show of an ex I can’t stand might have something to do with it (see #6). 2) I’m a Dance Dance Revolution freak and earn Bs and Cs on most songs on Standard level. For the uninitiated, that means I’m good–especially for a 54 year-old white man from the suburbs. 3) Every now and then, I have …

Sep 23, 2012
By Michael Rupured

Operation Beautification

The “for sale” sign is up in my front yard. The listing will be available online today or tomorrow. To prepare for what we hope will be a steady parade of potential buyers, yesterday we launched Operation Beautification. Because keeping this house was never in the cards, most of the work is already done. Five years ago we decided to get it ready to sell so we could buy a place closer to campus. Since then we’ve painted inside and out, simplified the landscaping, installed hardwood floors in the great room/dining room, and replaced the carpet in all three bedrooms. Our next project would have been to remodel the fifteen year-old kitchen. Otherwise, the inside of the house is in great …

Sep 22, 2012
By Michael Rupured


Progress toward my new normal has slowed. I blame reality. My expectations and imagined outcomes couldn’t possibly be the problem. Thursday afternoon I saw my financial planner. We needed to talk about the impact of the changes I’m making on my retirement plans. First a little explanation is in order. When I started my day job fifteen years ago, I had a choice between two retirement plans: a defined benefit (pension) plan and a defined contribution (savings) plan. According to someone–I can’t even remember who now–the pension plan was the better option if and only if I planned to live in Georgia for the rest of my life. Since I wasn’t sure, I opted for the savings plan. I’ll get Social …

Sep 19, 2012
By Michael Rupured
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Get This Show on the Road!

Even though my capacity to remember is not what it once was, I’m pretty sure that 2012 will be a year I remember—and we’ve still got three months to go. If you’re new to My Glass House, just read over my posts since July for an overview.  Short of having a baby or getting married, I’ve checked off quite a few major life events this year. At a glance, you might believe the negatives outweigh the positives. But I don’t see it that way at all, and I’m not just talking about the book deal. I’m not sure if it just happened or I’m only just now seeing it, but somewhere along the way I’ve changed. Yes, getting an advance and …

Sep 17, 2012
By Michael Rupured

More Change

I’ve been thinking quite a lot about how my life is going to change after my partner of the last twelve years moves out. First let me say that the two of us are getting along better than ever. The air has been cleared of any tension and resentments that may have built up over the years. There are no hard feelings and nobody is angry. We’re talking about our future plans and getting advice from each other just as we always have. The love, support, and encouragement from my many friends has made a difference. Your comments about my positive attitude help me stay committed to it. I have moments when I immerse myself in a life where “Falling …

Sep 15, 2012
By Michael Rupured


Coming out as a gay man in 1979 was a difficult, painful, and years-long process that I have no interest in repeating. My world turned upside down over night. I didn’t know how to act or what to do. Coming Out for Dummies hadn’t been written yet. A complete and total absence of positive role models didn’t make a rough transition any easier. So I made it up as I went along. On numerous occasions I wished for an older, more experienced gay man I could turn to for advice. Even one such person could have helped me to avoid making some of the decisions that I now recognize as reckless, foolish, or downright insane. Nearly twelve years ago, I …

Sep 09, 2012
By Michael Rupured

Seriously, Venting is Not Whining

The pace sure has picked up for me here in the last month. Seems like there just isn’t enough time for everything I need to do. Even after a week off from my day job, I’m feeling stressed. Don’t get me wrong–I’m not complaining. I’m grateful for each and every item on my over-full plate. But until I adjust to the additional weight, keeping the plate balanced so nothing falls off the side is going to be a challenge. As is often the case, it’s not so much one thing as the many. Again, I’m not complaining. My busy would still be a welcome and relaxing change of pace for any mother with children still at home. I’m fully aware …